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Dear Debbs

We have heard a few horror stories of keys in the bowl and mattress thrown on the floor at parties and unwanted advances which has put us off parties in the past is there truth in these stories. 

A&G

 Hi A & G

  The answer to your question is a definite NO the only things in our bowls is food lol.

            Well I can not answer for any one else’s parties but I can for ours, We believe that everyone should be able to come along to our events without having to worry about what is going to happen ,that is why we have  so much information on our site.We have set out guidelines to follow, anyone seen to be breaking the rules will be taken aside and will be given a little chat about the errors of there ways so to speak if they still insist on breaking them they would be asked to leave having said this we have never had anything happen at our events to result in this.  As all events are members only this makes it easier as all members have been checked out and verified as genuine and allot of members come along to most events and know how to behave.

       But I am sure if you both came along you would have a great time and want to come back again and again. 

Debbsxxxx

Dear Debbs

On our first swinging experience I lost my erection when playing with another lady and am nervous about having another experience. 

John 

Hi there John

                 Well believe it or not, not being able to get an erection is more common that you think, there is nothing to worry about, and some times nerves take over because you feel you have to perform. This is why we have private rooms with a relaxing atmosphere most couples find that on a first visit the atmosphere is erotic enough to really get you going with your own partner, some have said after being to a party they have had the best sex they have ever had. Many people play without having penetration or even playing directly with the genital area.

         So don’t worry you wouldn’t be the first or the last and im sure once you have been to a party you will agree with me 100%.

 Debbs ... Firstly love your outfit

              Our problems is that when Mrs H has an orgasm she can be very vocal and feels this is a bit embarrassing   can you help?

 To Mrs H

 Far from being a problem you would find that in a swinging situation that the sound of someone expressing their delight would be a huge turn on to others and in no way should you be embarrassed by expressing yourself. You certaily would  not be the only one.

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